Pre-conception, baby loss and birth trauma specialist and baby spirit communicator.

Pre-conception, baby loss and birth trauma specialist and baby spirit communicator.

Journeys to Motherhood

Find healing and re-connection with yourself and your baby after baby loss and/or birth trauma. Gently find resolution and transform how you feel about your journey to motherhood. Change how you, your baby and any future babies experience life with deeper understanding, love and joy.

My deepest desire…

My deepest desire is for you to free yourself from the pain, the spiralling thoughts and questions, gain a deeper understanding of the why and reconnect with yourself and your baby’s here and in spirit.

The overwhelm of emotions experienced from baby loss or birth trauma are unique to each mum and often so complex it is almost impossible to know how you feel. I know, because I have been there.

And I also know that is it possible to heal; to reconnect with yourself and your spirit baby or bond more fully and help heal your baby’s birth experience, to understand your experience and theirs more deeply and transform the pain and ultimately your life and that of your baby.

The journey to motherhood often seems like such a natural and easy process for many, however for some of us this journey can take us to places of pain and loss we wouldn’t wish on anyone. Losing a baby either from miscarriage or through choice, or a baby who is born sleeping, or the sense of loss that comes from a much-wanted little one yet to arrive in our lives, are some of the most indefinable and heartbreaking experiences a woman can live through.

Even when your baby is born healthy and happy the experience of birth itself can inflict some deep emotional wounds and can often leave women feeling traumatised and disempowered and unable to express how they feel.

Are you ready?

If you are ready, this journey with me will take you from your current place of pain, confusion, perhaps anger and feeling unable to cope – or guilt, shame and failure. You will move through trauma and feeling disempowered – to a place of love – for yourself and your baby. A place of peace, with a deeper understanding of your experience and a connection with your baby here following a traumatic birth, or in spirit after a loss.

The connection remains

Beautiful mums, please know even if your baby isn’t with you physically – you are a mum and you are always connected to your baby. This may be very hard to believe right now, even upsetting or bringing up anger depending on the space you are in.

Of course all we want is to have our baby’s here with us physically. However for some of us, for many reasons, this is not the case. And so it is to this knowing that your babies are well, that they are with you, a deeper understanding of your experience, this peace and this reconnection with yourself, your life and your baby in spirit that our work will lead.

Together, we will release the trauma and gently identify, understand and transform any emotions such as guilt, shame, failure, unfairness, anger, sadness, all and any emotions that are holding you in a place where you feel you are not able or allowed to fully embrace your life.

Through our work you will transform your perspective and how you feel about your experience and you will know that you and your baby in spirit remain connected. You will gain a deeper understanding of the ‘why’ . Why did this happen, why me? You will heal your womb of any pain, grief and trauma to offer a sacred home for any future babies. And for all women, wishing to become pregnant or not, open up and heal this powerful part of you.

Changing your birth story

My wish is that every baby and every mum, no matter what their choices or experience, feel safe, loved, empowered, informed and cared for every step of the way from conception to birth and beyond.

For mums whose experience of birth has left you feeling disempowered, disconnected and low, this can all change, often in just one session.

Science has now caught up with a mum’s innate knowing that from the moment of conception, babies are conscious beings, aware of their surroundings and the thoughts of those around them. Our experiences in the womb, the way we arrive in the world and the first six years of life sets us up for how our body and brain are going to develop and how we relate to the world – Is the world a dangerous, or a safe place; am I welcome in this world? Am I loved? Am I worthy?

For mums, our baby’s birth lays the foundation of how we bond and nurture our baby and any future birth experiences. But all too often circumstances are taken out of our control during this precious time. Our instincts can be overwhelmed by all the information on what we should or should not be doing or feeling. We can feel unheard and a difficult pregnancy or birth can often leave mum with feelings of disappointment, guilt, fear and helplessness to name a few. Some deliveries can leave mums, dads and babies traumatised and unable to fully embrace their new life as they remain overwhelmed by their experience and stuck in the trauma.

 

During your healing sessions with me you will…

  • Safely and gently release the trauma surrounding your unique experience.
  • Unravel and clear any emotions that are keeping you stuck in the pain and from moving forward.
  • Gain a deeper understanding of your experience and find peace and resolution.
  • Acknowledge how your experience maybe affecting your life now and change the direction of life to one you wish to create.
  • Look at the past and clear and change any patterns or beliefs that are holding you back from being the very best version of yourself and creating the life you desire and perhaps the family you so wish for.
  • Transform the experience for any potential future babies.
  • Transform the experience of a traumatic birth for your baby.
  • Heal any wounds and forgiveness surrounding your experience.
  • Set the intention for connecting in with your baby spirit, if that is your desire, and finding out the choices they made and how they experienced it.
  • Rise, knowing the truly incredible and powerful woman you are beneath the layers of life.

I have been pregnant six times and am now a very blessed mum with two beautiful boys.

Coming to this place of peace and acceptance and yes, even gratitude for the four very unique experiences of baby loss has not been an easy journey, but it is one that has created a profound healing and connection I couldn’t ever have imagined 8 years ago.

I am now able to connect in with my very much alive spirit babies, understand the deeper meaning and the bigger picture to life and help other women to heal from this devastating loss.

Lets connect…

You are invited to join a sacred Facebook group and connect with other women with similar experiences to share and gain support. In this Facebook group there will be a special ceremony to honour your baby in spirit and any future babies, meditations to ground you and connect you in with Mother earth and a guided meditation to connect in with your baby.

“Do not grieve for your little ones as they enjoyed the best of times and know they have experienced your love on many levels.

It is just for now they choose to experience it in this way and not physical form.

If you could see all the baby souls with me now you would not fret because they are all happy in making their choices and watch you from afar, wondering and waiting when they will be ready to come to you.

Also watching and waiting for you to allow them to be ready for you.”

Channelled from Rosa, my baby in spirit

Any experience of birth trauma is rarely talked about openly. In fact after birth if mum and baby are healthy there is very little opportunity for mums to express how they feel and how the birth has affected them. This must change within the medical community and until it does I am here to offer a pure, loving and open space of listening and healing.
I believe that every mum should have an opportunity to acknowledge, gain clarity on and transform and heal their feelings around any aspects of their birth experience. This dramatically changes the experience for your baby and their lives too.

That moment when time stands still, when the news that your baby is not going to make it, or that they have already passed, stays held in your body, mind and soul. No matter how much you tell yourself to ‘pull yourself together, this experience creates so much emotional and physical pain and affects your life in many ways and also that of any future babies.

The medical community can only help you so far with the why. Why me? Why did this happen? What did I do wrong? Did I do the right thing? Together we will set the intention of finding your why and your peace with this experience.

The overwhelm of feelings that rise up when you are no longer pregnant, are vast. It is often difficult to know how you feel, what you feel or what you want to feel. During out time together we will unravel all of those emotions and address them one by one when you are ready to do so. As you are able to acknowledge these feelings and release them you will become clearer, lighter and more full of hope and possibility.

You will find resolution, a deeper knowing and connection with yourself and your baby in spirit, to not only find the answers to your why, but perhaps theirs too.

Here to help you transform your life

Hi, I’m Debra and I’m an energy healer, intuitive guide, channel for Spirit and baby spirit communicator. I am a very blessed mum of two beautiful boys – a journey to motherhood that has led me to being here with you now.

My Soul’s calling is to support mums and mums in waiting on their journeys to motherhood. To help you connect more deeply with yourselves, your babies here, and in spirit.

Following the loss of four of my babies, of which there was no obvious physical or medical reason, I started on my own quest to find answers. Why me? Why didn’t they stay? What had I done wrong? How on earth was I going to ever feel better? And my big question – was there another little Soul out there for me.

I found these answers by going within – and in doing so, also found my ‘self’, my life purpose and my connection with my own babies, future baby and so many babies in spirit.

My heartfelt wish is to guide mums and mums in waiting to a deeper understanding of themselves and their journey to motherhood. Help them release and find resolution to past traumas and challenging experiences. To bond with and understand that their babies here and babies and future babies in spirit have their own choices and journeys to make.

I am a qualified Spiritual Counsellor, EFT (tapping), Matrix and Birth Matrix Reimprinting, Advanced Theta Healer and Advanced Soul Plan Reader. I have been practising energy healing since 2010.

I am a member of the HHC – Holistic Healing College, EFTMRA association and Theta Healing Institute of Knowledge.

What people are saying…

I had the most wonderful healing session with Debra yesterday. It revolved around the birth trauma I had with my first born and involved healing for me and him (15 years later!) and some healing around the most traumatic of my miscarriages where I met my baby girl who presented herself as a teenager which would be right in terms of human years. It was so emotional but so healing. Since the healing for my son, he just seems happier – more at ease, more confident.

He is chattier and is laughing more. Seriously, he had all this amazing healing and doesn’t even know it . I think this is so transformational for him and hopefully means he will go forward feeling stronger. Thank you so much Debra – look what you have done, you are a very gifted lady and one hell of a healer. ❤

Olwen

“I now feel how I imagined I would feel from the birth I planned, confident, happy, proud and trusting in myself and the world. It really does feel like waking from a bad dream. I thank you from the bottom of my heart, you were the spirit of a sacred midwife, holding the space and empowering me to be in my full power.”

Zoe

“Every session with Debra was healing, affirming and uplifting. She offered practical guidance, and combined this with more alternative exercises, it was a very holistic therapy. “The thing I loved most was that she helped me understand and love who I am, and become the person I’m meant to be. Debra helped me to believe in myself and follow my dream: and for that, I will be forever grateful.”

Rachel, aged 32

“Thank you for helping me to heal – I appreciate it more than I can say! You have a beautiful energy that is very soothing and comforting. It was a tremendous gift to go through this experience with you.”

Sacha, Ohio

“I worked with Debra to address a very personal problem. Debra made me feel at ease and was able to get to the root cause in a couple of sessions. I felt listened to and understood. Above all I felt calm. Debra also gave me the tools to continue working on myself at home. “I would highly recommend her service. She is professional, personable, warm, and above all a great person who I feel comfortable with”.

Julie, London

“Debra is the most warm, gentle, positive and effective force in my life. She has been such a generous source of support and helped me to transform the things that are holding me back so I can forge a path forward. Debra is engaging and intuitive, is always encouraging and supportive and I feel she has a genuine interest in my happiness and wellbeing.

Caroline, London

Find healing and connection…

Imagine how you would be living life if you weren’t feeling how you are right now?

If you felt free of the pain and the spiralling thoughts; at peace with your experience, through a deeper understanding of it. And most importantly of all, imagine feeling reconnected to yourself, connected with your experience, your baby here following a traumatic birth, or your beautiful baby in spirit.

New Beginnings - journeys to motherhood

Find healing and connection after a traumatic birth or baby loss to transform not only your experience but your life, your baby’s experience and the life of any future babies.

Birth trauma

90 minute sessions

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1 healing session

£95

3 x sessions

£277

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Every woman is unique and brings her own unique life experience and so it is difficult to say how many sessions may be required. You will feel very differently, more whole and empowered and able to move through any traumatic birth experience after just one session. However, there may be more to explore in further sessions. All packages are based on your specific needs.

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Using various hypnotherapy and energy healing tools, (including EFT and Matrix Birth Reimprinting, Colour healing and Theta Healing.

What is EFT and Matrix Reimprinting?

EFT stands for emotional freedom technique and is often known as tapping. It is a hugely powerful and simple therapy that switches off any stress and negative emotions arising from past or present upsetting events and is effective at addressing many, if not all, of life’s challenges.

It is essentially an emotional form of acupuncture where you use your fingers to tap on meridian points whilst addressing how you are feeling about a certain situation.

EFT is a combination of eastern and western traditional therapies. It follows the acupuncture/acupressure points of Chinese medicine and western modern psychology and counselling techniques.

It can be applied to address phobias, stress, addictions and weight loss as well as post-traumatic stress disorders, loss and chronic pain. It is fast becoming one of the leading natural therapies across the world.

This therapy is one of the safest and easiest to put into practice by yourself, and once the simple method is learnt you will be able to use EFT to heal many areas of your life yourself. I practice EFT in London in person and via skype across the world.

Matrix Reimprinting is a magical and simple tool that enables you to safely access any original traumatising events, which you may, or may not be, aware of. When in the Matrix you are able to safely and gently go back to an earlier, emotional or traumatised version of yourself to offer love, support and any resources needed to release the trauma and bring in new understanding, feelings and a sense of empowerment. EFT used together with Matrix Reimprinting is beautifully empowering and life-changing.

Using EFT and Matrix Reimprinting you are able to gently process and rewire your thoughts and feelings about an experience, enabling a sense of peace and resolution as well as seeing your world from a fresh perspective.

This magical and simple technique developed out of EFT by EFT Master Karl Dawson. It connects people with their past traumas and core beliefs. If you want to find out why you often don’t feel ‘good enough’, or perhaps you feel people don’t listen to you for example, this illuminating therapy enables you to resolve and transform such beliefs that are buried deep in our subconscious mind and stop us living the life we truly desire. The power of our belief systems is undoubtable. Our beliefs shape our thoughts, provide fuel for our emotional reactions and shape our reality.

If we can change our beliefs, well, we can change anything!  We have thousands of beliefs which we hold in our subconscious mind; many will be supportive, but we will also have formed beliefs from past events in our lives that can create a whole host of problems.

For:

  • Stress and feeling overwhelmed
  • Emotional and physical pain
  • Fertility
  • Procrastination
  • Self-confidence
  • Emotional trauma and childhood trauma
  • Fears such as fear of public speaking, flying, insects or animals
  • Allergies
  • Relationship issues
  • Anger

Life after baby loss

90 minute sessions

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1 healing session

£95

3 x sessions

£277

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Each offer and package is unique to your needs. A minimum of 3 sessions are recommended for deeper healing and connection. During our time together you will transform your perspective and how you feel about your experience. You will know that you and your baby in spirit remain connected. You will gain a deeper understanding of the ‘why’.

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Using various hypnotherapy and energy healing tools, (including EFT and Matrix Birth Reimprinting, Colour healing and Theta Healing.

What is EFT and Matrix Birth Reimprinting for birth trauma, baby loss and fertility and conception struggles?

This is a magical and simple technique that transforms your experience of giving birth, or your own birth experience, releasing trauma associated with conception, pregnancy and birth, including loss.

Using EFT, colour therapy and hypnotherapy techniques, you are gently and safely guided to a place where you access unconscious memories and beliefs as far back as your own experience in the womb or of giving birth, to gain a deeper understanding of both you, and your baby’s experience.

Being in this space will enable you to release any negative emotions and trauma and reimagine your birth story to create a more positive completion and resolution to the memory. Any healing and shifts in perspective about your experience also beautifully support your baby’s own healing.

Ultimately Matrix Birth Reimprinting changes how you see and what you feel about the world, leaving you with renewed energy, a new outlook on life and a more hopeful, loving and accepting way of being.

Matrix Birth Reimprinting is an ideal therapy to address any birth trauma, as well as support mums experiencing Post-Natal Depression, or for those mums who did not have the opportunity to hold their baby, through termination, miscarriage and loss.

Whatever your pregnancy or birth story, and no matter if this was six hours or sixty years ago, using Matrix Birth Reimprinting, it is never too late to reconnect and heal any difficult emotions and beliefs from birth, so you can truly embrace a fresh outlook, new energy and wellbeing. Through your own healing, your baby, will also be freed.

For:

  • Unexplained infertility
  • Miscarriage
  • Termination
  • Traumatic birth
  • Bonding with your child
  • Post-natal depression

Anyone who themselves experienced a challenging time in the womb or during birth.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is birth trauma?

Trauma occurs when you feel there is a threat of death of yourself or a loved one, you feel helpless and isolated. Birth trauma can involve dramatic, life threatening events in pregnancy, during birth or after. Or moments where you feel a loss of control, dignity, disempowered, not listened to, not fully informed of what is happening by medical staff and unmanaged pain.

Why would I work with you?

I have been to some very dark places on my journey to motherhood, healed from them with a deeper understanding and gratitude for them, and not only transformed my life but discovered my life purpose. And my life purpose as an intuitive guide and channel for spirit is to support women and their babies here and in spirit to heal, reconnect with yourself and your baby.

When can I take the sessions?

You can book one off sessions using the link below. When booking 3 or more sessions we will look together at what feels right.

Is there a payment plan?

Yes. If you sign up for 3 or more sessions.

Do I have to be spiritual to sign up to the programme?

Everyone is spiritual! If you have found your way to my page you have been guided to it and are ready.

What is my role in the process?

I fully believe that if I show up, you show up, then magic happens. Committing to yourself by investing time and money in yourself will already begin the healing process. You are worthy, deserving and enough. This is for you.

Do I need to be on Facebook or Skype

Our sessions will take place on Skype, or Facebook messenger or in person if you live in London.

Is it really possible to connect with my spirit baby?

Yes! Spirit babies make their own choices, and like us, they have their personal energy frequencies, so there are no guarantees a connection will be made. However, my own experience is those spirit babies who wish to, love connecting. My heartfelt desire is that I share with you the tools and meditations for you to connect with your babies in spirit yourself. As Einstein taught, we are all energy, everything is energy and energy cannot be created or destroyed, only transformed. We are always connected.

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